Mothers & teenage Daughters: the amusing facts and figures.

Mothers & teenage Daughters: the amusing facts and figures.

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Originally posted in the (current) November 2016 issue of The Fens – A FREE lifestyle magazine with the heart and soul of the Fens (for more information see here) – here are some amusing facts about mothers and teenage daughters.

As both a mother and stepmother of teenage daughters, I had plenty of inspiration to draw from at home when writing my debut novel, 183 Times A Year – a humorous observation of contemporary family life. However, like most writers, I also carried out a great deal of research. These are just some of the interesting and amusing facts I discovered about mothers and their teenage daughters.

About teen girls and power

It is suggested that the mother-daughter relationship is so powerful it affects everything from a woman’s health to her self-esteem. Dr Christiane Northrup, author of the book Mother-Daughter Wisdom (Hay House), says, “The mother-daughter relationship is the most powerful bond in the world, for better or for worse. It sets the stage for all other relationships.”

Their need to separate

While most 5 year-old girls love their mothers with an unshakeable conviction, it’s often a different story by the time they reach their teens. The once-adored mother who rarely put a foot wrong is suddenly always doing or saying embarrassing things. Teenage daughters often feel torn between wanting to remain close to their mothers and wanting to separate.

The facts and figures

According to a survey posted in The Telegraph in May 2013 studying the relationship between teenage daughters and their mothers, the Facebook/Tweeting, selfie-taking, music and mobile phone obsessed teenage girl will, during a year:

  • Cry over boys 123 times
  • Slam 164 doors
  • Have 257 fights with brothers and sisters
  • Fall out with their friends 127 times despite spending 274 hours on the phone to them.
  • Guess what they do 183 times a year!

Hang on in there!

It is estimated that by the time a woman reaches the age of 23, she finally starts to acknowledge and appreciate everything her mother did for her. Most daughters are grateful for their mother’s guidance throughout the tough times, even though they failed to realise it at the time.

 

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The Last Days of Rabbit Hayes – my book review.

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Originally posted in The Fens – A FREE lifestyle magazine with the heart and soul of the Fens (for further information follow the link here), this is my review of the wonderful, The Last Days of Rabbit Hayes by Anna McPartlin, published by Black Swan.

The Last Days of Rabbit Hayes is exactly that – the last days of Rabbit (real name Mia) Hayes after a 4-year battle with breast cancer. But don’t let that put you off. Although heart breaking at times this is also a wonderfully funny, poignant and heartfelt story about family, friends, love and life.

The story begins at the end – so to speak. Rabbit is dying and there is nothing to be done, despite the best efforts of Rabbit’s parents, Jack and Molly, who never give up hope of finding a cure. However, that said, this is in no way a morbid or morose tale but rather a celebration of Rabbit’s life. For the most part Rabbit remains upbeat, headstrong and admirably honest, especially via her blog, a tool that proves to be cathartic and helps her cope with the inevitably of her situation. The narration glides beautifully between past and present and as the story unfolds we discover Rabbit the girl maturing into Mia the woman. Like most individuals Rabbit has aspirations, hopes and dreams, some she fulfils and some she doesn’t.

Aside from Rabbit we are introduced to many other wonderful, colourful characters including Juliet, Rabbit’s feisty young daughter – as a mother myself I deeply identified with the sadness Rabbit felt at having to leave her lovely daughter behind. Then there’s Jack, Rabbit’s dad, a man who clearly dotes on all his children and Rabbit’s mum, Molly, the resolute Irish Mammy – the big hearted, hilariously funny, swearing matriarch of the family who keeps everything and everyone going. Then of course there’s Johnny Faye…the love of Rabbit’s life.

The Last Days of Rabbit Hayes is beautifully written, beautifully funny but also beautifully sad. It is not particularly informative about Rabbit’s illness but rather a story about how terminal illness can affect a family – including the fact that life goes on. There is no doubt you will need to have your hankies at the ready when reading this book, however, although this is a story addressing death, there can be no doubting the fact it is also about life. A life-affirming story about an ordinary life filled with love, laughter, music and some extraordinary relationships. Definitely one I’d recommend.